fantasy of growth in therapy

the fantasy of growth that you find in therapy, and also in New Age thought, doesn’t include this awkwardness … when we look at people going through that, we usually don’t say they’re growing, we usually consider them out of it … during such a time one certainly doesn’t feel more powerful in the world … it is a romantic, harmonious fantasy of an ever-expanding, ever-developing, ever-creating, ever-larger person—and ever integrating, getting it all together

if you don’t fulfill that fantasy you see yourself as failing … an idealization that sets you up to fail … you’re constantly comparing yourself to the fantasy of where you should be on some ideal growth scale.

the fantasy of growth, the fantasy of the everexpanding, ever-developing person—which is a very strong fantasy out there right now, especially among the educated, and among all those buyers of self-help books — doesn’t take changelessness into account at all … fed by many sorts of therapies, can’t help but make people feel more like failures in the long run … in turn, can’t help but increase the general feeling of powerlessness … a pretty vicious circle.

growth project of therapy

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1. growth project of therapy

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2. therapy wordly skills and power

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3. collective obsession with growth

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