prickly oxheart

Most people treat their pasts like a weathered suitcase — dragging it everywhere, convinced that what’s inside defines them. But here’s the thing about old luggage: it’s filled with worn clothes that no longer fit, souvenirs from places you’ve left, and stories that might have served you once but now only weigh you down. The scope of psychology isn’t to pretend that suitcase doesn’t exist but to unpack it, sort through what’s useful, and leave behind the dead weight. Then the real story — the one that matters — is the one you actively shape rather than passively carry, the one you choose to tell now.

If you’re here, it’s probably because a part of your current story is out of order. Maybe you’re circling the same frustrations, waiting for something to shift. Maybe you’re wondering whether you can step into a future that actually feels yours — not just the predictable outcome of inherited path and acquired habits.

Where the work begins:

• Coaching is Not Therapy — and That’s a Good Thing
• Why I Don’t Call Myself a Coach
• Reclaiming Power from Fear

Transformation isn’t smooth. It’s jagged, full of friction, and requires pushing past resistance. Prickly Oxheart is a reflection of that — raw, real, and deeply vital. The oxheart is a variety of heirloom tomato — organic, irregular, and richer in flavor than anything mass-produced. It does not conform to expectations, and that’s precisely why it’s valued. Prickly serves as a reminder that doing work challenges comfort. Growth could be simple, but it’s never sleek — it demands effort, awareness, and commitment.

Psychological work, much like gardening the oxheart tomato, shouldn’t aim to produce a uniform result — it should cultivate an authentic, vibrant process that is entirely your own. It isn’t something that happens to you just because you picked it up at the store. It unfolds within you, shaped by your continuous engagement.

You don’t need a coach. You need to stop waiting for the fear to pass before you move. And having someone beside you — not to guide, but to disturb the pattern — is how you finally start.

I don’t offer progress. I offer presence that won’t perform. I ask the questions that don’t fold under politeness. And I stay with you while your own answers rearrange everything.

If this resonates, you’ll know when it’s time.
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1. principles 
   An ongoing exercise of radical introspection expressed through first-person singular writing, the slash-principles page serves as a fluid document that reflects my evolving truths, beliefs, and principles. Discomfort is not an enemy, it’s a teacher! Each tenet is shaped and refined by the hard choices I make, aligning with my personal raison d'être and ikigai.