self-sufficient villages not families

for thousands of year’s no family was self-sufficient, each - a working unit, a part of the larger working unit, which was the community. Tribes and villages were self-sufficient, not families. It’s not only that everyone worked together, everyone also played and prayed together, so that the burden of relationship, and of meaning, wasn’t confined to the family, much less to a romantic relationship, but was spread out into the community … until the Industrial Revolution, family always existed in that context.

• individual neighbours separated actual self
• work at personal relationship and love

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1. individual neighbours separated actual self
   family I won’t accept these simple opposites—either individual self in control or a totalitarian , mindless mob. This kind of fantasy keeps us
   
2. idealizations of growth family and relationship
   the ideal of growth makes us feel stunted; the ideal family makes us feel crazy … We have these idealizations that make us feel crazy, even though