horney home bases
- Karen Horney’s neoanalytic work (1945), the three home bases, examining our basic neurotic strategies, social relationships and the interpersonal conflict, dominant ways of being:
- Moving Away (detachment, silence), step back more often than lean in whether the situation is casual or conflictual
- Moving Against (challenging, observing), leaning in to challenge and sharing observations even when uninvited or unnecessary and exhibiting a pushing energy in interactions with others
- and Moving Toward (connecting, caring), lean in working to connect through caring about and for others, oftentimes overdoing the caring and veering into the territory of collusion
- each of us has a home base we find most reassuring and comforting, a stance that is thoroughly known to us, it is optimal to have a sense of our familiar old home base and work to build practices that allow us to expand our agility and experience the other home bases
| Characteristics | ||
|---|---|---|
| Moving Toward | Moving Against | Moving Away |
| - Compliant - Helpless - Needing approval - Please others to be liked |
- Hostile - Fighting against - Protection and revenge - Be the best to be liked |
- Detached - Withdrawn - Isolating - Be self-sufficient to be liked |
| The Family Roots: a child | ||
| finds becoming overly compliant is the most likely way to receive the love and approval of parental figures | finds fighting back and seeking to control through assertiveness is the most likely path to safety and security with parental figures | detaches and disengages, relying on his/her own self-sufficiency in lieu of seeking the unpredictable love and approval of his/her parental figures |
| The Upside: | ||
| - Caring - Connected |
- Direct - Action focused |
- Autonomous - Serene |
| The Downside: | ||
| - Seeking Approval - Compliant |
- Overly Assertive - Seeking Recognition |
- Overly Intellectual - Withdrawing Too Soon |
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there are now three in the study tripod and the evolution of three to four three levels system in society three levels of masculine consciousness
there are now three in the study tripod and the evolution of three to four three levels system in society three levels of masculine consciousness