horney home bases
- Karen Horney’s neoanalytic work (1945), the three home bases, examining our basic neurotic strategies, social relationships and the interpersonal conflict, dominant ways of being:
- Moving Away (detachment, silence), step back more often than lean in whether the situation is casual or conflictual
- Moving Against (challenging, observing), leaning in to challenge and sharing observations even when uninvited or unnecessary and exhibiting a pushing energy in interactions with others
- and Moving Toward (connecting, caring), lean in working to connect through caring about and for others, oftentimes overdoing the caring and veering into the territory of collusion
- each of us has a home base we find most reassuring and comforting, a stance that is thoroughly known to us, it is optimal to have a sense of our familiar old home base and work to build practices that allow us to expand our agility and experience the other home bases
| Characteristics | ||
|---|---|---|
| Moving Toward | Moving Against | Moving Away |
| - Compliant - Helpless - Needing approval - Please others to be liked |
- Hostile - Fighting against - Protection and revenge - Be the best to be liked |
- Detached - Withdrawn - Isolating - Be self-sufficient to be liked |
| The Family Roots: a child | ||
| finds becoming overly compliant is the most likely way to receive the love and approval of parental figures | finds fighting back and seeking to control through assertiveness is the most likely path to safety and security with parental figures | detaches and disengages, relying on his/her own self-sufficiency in lieu of seeking the unpredictable love and approval of his/her parental figures |
| The Upside: | ||
| - Caring - Connected |
- Direct - Action focused |
- Autonomous - Serene |
| The Downside: | ||
| - Seeking Approval - Compliant |
- Overly Assertive - Seeking Recognition |
- Overly Intellectual - Withdrawing Too Soon |
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