reclaim power
It doesn’t matter what name you give it. Call it discernment. Call it timing. Call it staying open. Fear still gets to lead. Every time you reach for something real, it’s the same hand that pulls back.
Most people don’t fear power. They fear being found with it — like being caught without pants.
They’ve been trained to apologise for their own authority. To borrow courage from mentors, modalities, mentors of modalities. To stay “in process” instead of making the move. To pronounce “integration” when they mean paralysis.
You don’t need another process. You need to accept the consequence.
The moment you stop outsourcing power, you’ll feel it: the silence where praise used to be. The absence of seeking approval. The discomfort of choosing without checking the script. No container. No constant feedback. Just you, and the weight of your own decisions.
That’s the cost. That’s the freedom.
True power doesn’t feel like permission. It feels like trespassing — at first. You’ll look around for someone to nod. You’ll look for someone to say you’re OK. And when no one does? That’s the moment you either retreat — or proceed without the cushion.
No lineage can grant it. No certificate can verify it. Power is reclaimed in the moment you stop waiting to be recognised and begin behaving as if you already are.
You stop performing your healing. You stop quoting the books. You stop pretending to need another system before you move.
You begin.
Coaching, when it works, doesn’t give you power. It reveals where you’ve been giving it away.
It doesn’t hand you leadership. It strips away everything that made you wait for it.
Self-leadership isn’t just “making better choices”. It’s refusing to abandon yourself when no one’s watching. It’s the discipline to act in alignment. Not with the market. Not with yesterday’s version of you. But with your principles. With what’s true for you now.
And once you lead yourself like that — without a script, free from the cult of experts — the old idea of leadership — being above, being followed — becomes irrelevant. You no longer lead people by managing them. You lead by refusing to lower yourself. By refusing to compromise, fake, or delay your own becoming.
People don’t follow your steps. They follow your stance.
They don’t need you to carry their weight. They need the gravity of your strength to walk.
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Prickly Oxheart
Unpack old baggage, overcome fear, reclaim autonomy, and create real change. Prickly Oxheart merges coaching and the art of psychology, enabling authentic transformation and self-leadership.