for some people, their good looks — for others, absolute unselfishness, absolute virility, superman ideas, absolute goodness, and all kinds of imaginary, untestable notions, habits of thought and patterns of behaviour — have served as a means of obtaining affection, approval, protection, and care ... compulsion is sensed when there is a threat of any of these means becoming ineffective
maturing process we have the opportunity of finding out how far we can go in dropping old habitual patterns acquired during the dependence period ... education should be to help the individual achieve the state of an evolving being ... education that has not achieved this aim is a failure ... independence then becomes a heavy and tiring task and a continuous struggle against oneself
the exaggerated sensitivity of some people and the importance it has in their lives meeds further elucidation