being a grown-up in a contemporary culture

• contemporary culture … been grown-ups through responsibly exercising parental, fiduciary, relational, and societal roles … we play all these mature roles yet know in our heart of hearts that we still have to grow up … we have very few initiated, separated, independent persons of adult sensibility … ageing alone does not do it; playing major roles in life does not do it
• six stages of ancestral passage to adulthood
• a needy (blaming) culture … instant gratification, a flight from accountability, and an inability to tolerate the tension of opposites
• learning to live with ambiguity over the long haul and transcending the desire for rapid resolution of life’s quiddities
• to show up in the best way we can